For the love month of February, I decided to blog about my own love story.My hubby and I got married before we were able to finish our studies Like any other young marriage, I got pregnant the very reason for a very abrupt decision. We were both 4th Yr – 1st sem, Engineering college students in the University of the East then, classmates and partners in crime. Typical of any boyfriend – girlfriend thing, we were very passionate and adventurous then. We thought that we are on top of our lives and in command when infact we are not.
I can still vividly remember our wedding day (March 6, 1993) not because it is a memorable
day to remember, but because no one seems to smile even a bit. Almost all our elders are angry and has something to say. This is because both our parents are pinning all hopes to both of us. Most specially the parents of Allan being the eldest. Not to mention the fact that both of us are from a modest family who’s just making both ends meet to survive.
It was really a sad, painful and complicated start. A relationship where no one seems to approve but both of us are very willing to fight for. So off we go to a world we are both unfamiliar with. We started to shed our teenage life, and put on a tough front to start a family, now as a MAN and WOMAN. It is not as easy as we thought. Starting a family without a single penny in our pocket, very typical of any teenage marriage, that is how we started and has been a challenge of our life.
We both stop schooling, since I was heavy with my first child (Ishi – now 13 yrs old), while Allan determined to give our family a good headstart works to death, day and night. After my Ishi was born, the more it has been complicated to us financially, but it is compensated with the happiness that our little bundle of joy gave us.
Good thing is that I got married to a very responsible man. At a young age, he put on the robe of a very responsible provider, a loving husband and a good father.But what we are proud of even upto to this day is that we live separately from our parents. yes, young as we started, we ensure that we will not be a burden to our families. We promise to prove to all of them that we will be succesful in life and in love. So no matter if we dont have enough food in our table that time, at least we have the three of us happy together.
Our first 5 years were really a struggle to our relationship. Just when I thought that money does not matters in a married life, we prove it wrong. No matter how deeply in-love you might be, when you dont have enough and you dont know where to get food and milk to feed your kids, that is where you started to realize all your follies, you started to realize that indeed life is not a bed of roses. Although money does not buy happiness, it is true that a tight financial situation can create tensions which can affect an otherwise happy relationship.Those were the times when he goes back to school to study, working at night and studying by day). But with love and determination in our hearts, we stay focus not to be daunted by the negative cisrcumstances in our lives. We made a vow to God and we are reaffirming it by being together and believeing that “with Love on our side and God as our guide, we can never be wrong”.
To make the long story short, he was able to finished his studies three years after we got married, and from being a meager Roomboy in a small motel, he bacame an Engineer. Unselfish as he is, when we have enough, it was my turn to finish my degree. I became an instant “Allan Pagcaliwagan Educational Scholar”. It was not easy then, but it is rewarding and fulfilling. Suddenly our married life started to change, little by little we can feel the difference in life, everything turns out well. Looking back, I just sometimes could not help but cry. It is always good remembering what we have been through, because without those struggles we may never accomplished much.
We are just one of the few teenage marriage who have survived despite the odds. Our loverstory may not be a bed of roses but it is indeed, made in heaven. The promise of a married life is not sugar-coated, but it is the sweetest gift in life that God has given us if we just have to take care of it.
13 years after, we are still happily married, now with 2 kids (Ishi and Icko). Financially, although we dont have much, at least we can give our kids a very comfortable lives. We may be miles apart, my hubby being an OFW in Saudi Arabia, but we are very much together. Our relationship with our family? It has never been this great.
13 years and counting and we are still so deeply in-love. I just cannot wait to get old and gray being with him and to spend every Valentines Day with my husband.
Nakakatuwa naman ang love story mo, Cielo. Very inspiring. Against all odds talaga
Thanks for sharing it!
By the way, pwede ba makipag-exchange links yung Utopia blog ko?
Have a great week ahead!
thx sasha, i wrote this entry so that others may have a second thought on teen marriage that it not all above love, struggles talaga.
on xchange link already added it
Cielo,
First, many thanks for visiting mah site hehehe! BABALA hehehe karamihan dun puro kami timang! hahaha! kaya wag mapikon just in case eh kasi yun kadalasan ang problema nang mga baguhan noh?
Second, many thanks for putting up that logo. Lam mo naman, kelangan maging proud ever we are dahil nga minsan nilalatigo kami nang balikwang madla, just a reminder sa mga tugalzik na isip na dai naming contribution sa kagandahan nang buhay sa pinas kahit na bali balikwa pa ang ibang parts
Third, verditaz ako sa love storrrrryyyy mohhhhhhh AAAAAGGGGGRRR!!!! pero ganda naman talaga minsan ang drama nang some people close to you eh disapprove sa relationship and then maganda pala kakalabasan – course your heart knows bettah!
more power and nice meeting you online!
- ang balahurang reyna
hehehe
Very inspiring love story. I admire you both for your hardwork, determination and for the love of God!!!!
Thanks for stopping by and for the comments…
what a moving love story. i applaud your husband’s determination.
Very touching yet a very inspiring love story ! Congratulations and many many more years of togetherness for you and hubby!
GOD BLESS!
reyna elena,
kalibang ka, actually sa totoong buhay eh baklush lang ako, nagprapractice lang akong mag english sa blog ko. kc frustration kong maging journalist.
pero im planning to have another blog, which will showcase all my humor and kavaklushan maiba naman
tough start, cielo, but you made it to your 13th. more years to come, but i’m sure you will be able to manage. good luck!
your hard work serves as an inspiration to many.
hi agring,
i wrote this story for those teenagers na mapupusok. they must realize na it is not really a bed of roses. Majority sa mga teenage marrriage na kasabayan namin does not actually work. It is a good thing that we survive.
Thx for dropping by. Hope to see u more often
evi,
kaya im thankful to God that although it was not a good start, we areable to keep on track coz of his determination.
thx for the visit
eden,
thx friend.
email kita ng contact number ko. hope to see u here in manila.
i will be available saturday. see u around
mommy dine,
i will never be tired to tell u this. In this blogging world, ur one of my inspiration. How you raise your kids , how u manage to be an effective home maker despite of being a working mom like me and aloving wife.
i read ur posts from day 1 of ur blog.
hi ate cielo! tnx sa visit at pag-link, i’ll link you up na rin po..
your story was really one of those inspiring yet full of struggles pero GALING! I have my besfriend since gradeschool na ganyan din. She got pregnant when we are at 4th yr college and yes they were both engineering students. Parang Xerox copy ng love story nyo hehehe… I remember that I was crying when i knew she was pregnant… Pero ngaun I think they have fought a good fight and get stronger each day… You’re love story will be an inspiration…
hala dami ko nasabi hehehe.. pls come visit me again
Hi Cielo! I was near tears while reading your story. It is an inspiring story and I thank you for sharing it.
Btw, I’ve linked you up already.
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hi nice, thx for the visit il be seeing more of u
Thanks for sharing your love story Mommy Cielo… *smile*
Happy Tuesday!
Sana alam ni ishi love story nyo ni allan para hindi nya maisip mag-asawa at early age. Wish ko sana magkasama-sama na kayo lahat.
Happy Valentines to both of you.
Hi Cielo! Your story is really inspiring……and it really shows what marriage is all about….and as what you wrote “Many happy marriages are made, they do not just happen”, is really true….as long as you fullfill your commitment to God and to each other….it will last forever…. God Bless!!!
your story is beautiful, while many in a similar situation would have given up, you chose (and are choosing) to hang on. cheers to you cielo!
and that’s a beautiful family picture
wendz, thx for visiting me
tyk care
rachel,
it is a good thing that just like us ur friend was able to trimphed the most difficult time in their young marriage.
Marriage is really a work in progress.
expect to see more of me in ur home
yes ann, palagi namin kinekwento sa kanya ang mgha pinagdaanan namin, i just hope na hindi na nya danasin yun buhay na pinagdaanan namin ni papa nya.
thx for wishing my family well, sana nga magkasama sama na kami yan ang aking ardent na wish kay God. I just hope it will be SOON.
yan si shenggay ang aking soon to be bestfriend sa opis, why SOON kc we are still in the process of getting to know each other, parang GF-BF thing hehehe.
im always praying for happiness & healing in God’s time.
Go friend
hi ces, we almost gave up also at some point in time, but God is good he guides us through.
thx for the visit
Inspirational ang buhay n’yo. Marami ang matututo.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
karen,
i just hope na makakuha sila ng aral sa buhay at magkaruon sila ng bigger picture ng isang teenage marriage.
Happy valentine’s Day too
Stay happy
hello cielo,
happy valentines day to you n kids….sa asawa mo rin.
thanks for sharing your very wonderful love story….wonderful?
sabi pa nga, kahit saging basta loving…which my papa will not agree on this b4.
Thanks for your comments too, na touch din ako.
ganoon rin ako pag namiss ko sila, or kahit sino man. through pics. yon maala-ala ko sila and feel na malapit lang sila.
I fun of making pics,.,…pics for me is the precious things n memories, that i can always see and see….
again, happy valentines and thank you very much…..
ako rin ganoon din, tears lalabas na lang hindi ko alam.
bye
wow ate, against all odds nga ang love story mo.. ^_^
makikita talaga na kapag mahal mo ung isang tao, magagawa mo lahat para lang magsama kau..
*hugs*
i love it.
“kahit saging basta loving”
hehheheh.
thx mom VK
karmi, actually part of it is napilitan din tlg na magpakasal dahil preggy na me that time, during tht time mortal sin ang mapreggy ng hindi ikakasal heheheh.
pero seriously, we do have that magic called love
for teenage marriages, this is one of the success stories that could reduce one to tears as it really touches the heart and soul. God bless your marriage and family!:)
hi sis, great love story. i got married young too. even younger, actually. we were still in high school when i got pregnant then a year later, we got married. sad to say, it didn’t last. but reading this makes me want to believe in love again…
very inspiring….so happy for you guys , you both are very comitted to each other…… and many more years to come.
What a wonderful, inspiring story.
Happy 17th Wedding Anniversary!
What a wonderful love story…I was touched. When you have God as your guide, you will never go wrong.
Thanks for letting me copy your love story..See you. Here is the link:
http://1.pinoyko.info/2011/03/brown-pinay-love-story.html
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