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After 20 Years – Our Love Story Continues 20 Years and Beyond

Posted on March 6, 2013 by Brown Pinay| Leave a comment

What makes this day special? On this same day 20 years ago, I married my partner in life. I married a bestfriend whom I can confide. I married the man who gave me my 2 bundle of joy – our kids Ishi and Icko.

After 20 years much has changed and both if us have evolved. Financially we are now better off, just enough to give our kids our kids a comfy life. Of course we have matured a lot but we never lose the kid in us. Now we can just laugh at our follies, learn at life’s lesson and move on, unlike before where everything seems to be a big deal.

After 20 years, our look has really evolved. from our old marriage pictures look how we;ve gone bigger and better. Actually bigger literally hhahahaha. When we got married at a young age everyone would comment na “para lang kayong pinabili ng suka sa tindahan”. But now, how I missed the youth and freshness. pero OK lang, these fats that I have in my tummy and my tiger scratch in it only signifies na I am a Mom to our 2 wonderful kids. While the super added pounds in hubby’s weight and the belt bag in your tummy only shows to say na masarap talaga ako magluto hehheheheh. Tumaba man tayo ibig sabihin dami na pagkain sa bahay hehheheheh.

After 20 years, we still have our share of our fights, not as big as before, but then enough to better understand our differences and fully know each other.

After 20 years, I am still looking forward to another 80 years of my life to be with the man whom I married 20 years ago. Our married life is not a bed of roses, there has been so many struggles, hindrances and twist and turns, but we are able to survive. Another 80 years or eternal married bliss is not too much to ask.

Happy 20th Wedding Anniversary Mahal ko.

Ngayong araw na ito tayong dalawa ang bida.At dahil bida tayo hayaan nyo naman na maging bida kami sa Video na ito…as we share to you a snippet of our 20 years of married life.

Our love story is a constant challenge and struggles, all of which we successfully triumphed TOGETHER. We are the undying epitome of the saying that “Many happy marriages are made, they do not just happen“.We are just one of the few teenage marriage who have survived despite the odds. Our loverstory may not be a bed of roses but it is indeed, made in heaven. The promise of a married life is not sugar-coated, but it is the sweetest gift in life that God has given us if we just have to take care of it.

This is the story of our love…it will continue to blossom until our last breathe and until the last days of our lives.

Our Corny Courtship Days
Our Struggles in our Teenage Marriage and Our Love Story
Even our secret on how to maintain long and lasting love despite of being a Pamilyang OFW .

We may start young but our love story defies age…together we grew up and learn our lesson well, to be the best parents to our kids and to keep the flame of love burning…for our family, our kids and for ourselves….

Just to quote my dear husband

“Many happy marriages are made, they do not just happen“

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brown pinay

Posted in Celebrations, Inspiration, My Family, My Life, Pamilyang OFW, Relationships

Parenting My Sick Son – the 1st day of His Confinement

Posted on February 26, 2013 by Brown Pinay| 3 Comments

Now let me continue the Parenting My Sick son series of my blog post where my little boy was admitted to the Emergency Room twice. After the second time, I am praying to high heavens to spare my son from further pain. But the pain has become unbearable once more that I decided to bring him back to the hospital. Instead of going to the ER, we went to a pediatrician who immediately there after issue an instruction to have my son admitted for hospital
confinement.

Actually, I would really like Icko to be admitted since I know that he needs immediate medical attention and I will be more relieved knowing that he will be under the care of the medial experts who will monitor and take good care of him.

We are admitted for 4 days.

February 12 (PM) – February 13 (AM) – I rushed my son twice at the MCU Hospital ER

February 13 (4PM) – first day of Icko’s confinement. Pahirapan sa paglagay ng IV, just like me and his Ate Ishi, manipis ang aming ugat, kaya pumutok ang ugat dun sa unang try. Icko was holding to me tightly, at kahit na super takot ako sa dugo at injection {kaya nga hindi po ako nagNursing gaya ng aking mga high school barkada) ay talaga namang nilakasan ko na ang aking loob. Dahil ang Nanay Super Hero.

The first night was a misery, We were told that he will already be fasting the whole night since he will be undergoing Ultrasound test. At around 1:00 AM to 3 AM tummy pain attacked hit him, he told us that the pain rate is = 8 to 10. He wants to eat but unfortunately restricted because of the scheduled Ultrasound. I told him that I can call off the Ultrasound and resched it so that he can eat and drink. But my little boy is such a warrior – he told me bravely “No, Mama kaya ko ito” habang namimilipit sya he is singing “Our Father” then after the Our Father, he keeps murmuring, “Kaya ko ito, soldier ako, matapang ako”. I was really hurting inside seeing my son that way and seeing his brave front. I would like to cry but I am just keeping it to myself, I should be his strength. So even though I am so bursting with tears I just keep it to myself. Then my son told me to sing to him “Rock a Bye Baby”…As far as I can remember I had sang the song to him that night more than a hundred times.

The Lullabye song Rock a Bye baby has such a therapeutic sleeping wonders to my son which I cannot explain. Even when he is not sick, when he ask me to sing it for him – he turns to be really sleepy. After that almost 100 times of singing the Lullaby Song (no exaggeration here) he was able to catch his sleep which relieved him from pain temporarily, that time I rushed to the CR and bursted out all my tears that I can shed.

Kung pwede lang na akuin ang sakit ng aking mga anak gagawin ko.

That same day, I prayed to God to spare my kids from all the pain, give all their misery and all their pains and sickness to me. Out of desperation, I told God that “Lord paggising po ng aking anak, tanggalin nyo po ang kanyang sakit, lalakad po ako ng paluhod sa Divine Mercy Church at Our Lady of Manaoag. Alam ko naman that God is a very understanding, compassionate Almighty, pero gusto ko iyon at bilang pagpupuri ay aking gagawin.

Hindi masusukat ang pagmamahal ng isang magulang.

On the side note: My OFW hubby was really worried to death that we were already both stressed up and both of us were already altercating. I do understand him being away, but I was in stress and so depress that I told him that instead of fighting over we should pray. I emphatized with my OFW hubby since he was so helpless, he is far away and I know that waiting for a feedback about his son’s condition was killing him that time. I opted not to answer his phone calls and just replied to his text to avoid further altercation. But everything turns well that ends well. Akin lamang itong naibahagi kasi ganyan talaga nang buhay pamilyang OFW. Maaring magkasakit ang mahal sa buhay, ang nasa malayo ay sadyang nag aalala. Sa mga naiwanan dito masakit din na marinig ang salita na “bakit pinabayaan nyo ang anak ko” but this is just a natural reaction of someone who has been away, helpless and a parent who is so loving and caring to his son yet helpless because of the distance.

“AS MOTHER LOVES HER CHILD MORE THAN HER LIFE”

Posted in Health, My Family, My Kids, My Life, Pamilyang OFW, Parenting

Let Me Be….

Posted on February 14, 2013 by Brown Pinay| Leave a comment

Let me be your strength when you are weak…
Let me be your joy when you are sad…
Let me be a friend when you need someone to talk to…
Let me give you my ear when no one seems to listen…
Let me be your blanket when you are cold and weary…
Let me be someone who will love you until the end of our lives.

I will always be at your side no matter what season in life it may be…
I will always keep my vow to you that no matter -”I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.”
I will always be here for you, This I promise you.

No boundaries, no distance so far can drew us apart. Because our love knows no boundaries.

I love you dearly now and forever…..

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“Love will touch us one time but it will last us a lifetime.”
==Unknown==

Posted in Celebrations, Happy Road, Inspiration, Pamilyang OFW

Weekend Breakfast- the Pamilyang OFW Way

Posted on January 27, 2013 by Brown Pinay| 1 Comment

It was a lazy Sunday, we woke up late at 9:30AM Every weekend is is already a routine for us to chat to my OFW husband before he goes to work.

This is how we usually do our weekend breakfast- the Pamilyang OFW way.

Breakfast Pamilyang OFW style….with kiddos sharing their kwento with papa. While Papa Allan enjoying every moment of it…

Manila time : 10AM
Saudi time : 5AM

Syempre nasa kabisera pa din si Papa

(Kabisera seat – reserved for head of the family )

To my fellow Pamilyang OFW, what is your bonding moment rituals?

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“The love of a family is life’s greatest blessing”

Posted in Pamilyang OFW

Pamilyang OFW: Another Parting Time

Posted on January 17, 2013 by Brown Pinay| 6 Comments

As seconds turns into minutes, minutes into hours and hours into days, I am slowly turning sad. One day to go and my family will be back to regular programming – OFW husband will be back to work in Saudi, I will be back tending to the kids alone as a working Mom and the kids will do their regular activities without Papa.

Ambilis naman ng panahon kung pwede lang ifreeze ang time – 40 days is such a short time to catch up. It is the 39th day today and tomorrow will be the 40th day of my OFW husband’s vacation. Meaning to say it is once again “parting time”. Hay naku parang “hiram na sandali” .

Parting time na naman, emote time na naman. Although 7 years nang OFW si husband I can still feel enormous sadness every time that he would leave us to work abroad. Sabi nga ng iba di na daw ako nasanay. Intentional yun, ayaw kong masanay na wala si dear husband.

Goodbyes no matter how frequent can never be sweet. My husband has been an OFW for 7 years now, in that 7 years of our life, I only accompanied Allan to the airport only once (that was the first time he left the country). I would always fetch him from the airport but I decided that it will better if we will say our goodbyes at home. Parang may nakabarang buto ng santol sa lalamunan when it is parting time. I need to put a brave front for the sake of the kids, but inside parang sasabog ka sa lungkot…ang hirap…

E kasi nga I love Hello’s, I Hate Good Byes

Tuwing aalis sya parehas kaming magigising ng maaga. Si Allan mag aayos ng sarili at hindi manggigising. Ako naman magpapanggap na natutulog, nagtutulug tulugan ako pero pumapatak naman ang luha sa mga mata ko….Hayyyyy buhay, alam kong hindi lang ako ang nakakadanas nito – alam kong halos lahat ng Pamilyang OFW.

But I wont complain, ayaw kong masanay at maging manhid everytime na aalis sya. I do not like to get used to the feeling at maging parang wala na lang ito sa amin. Everytime my husband leaves for Saudi, it just makes my kids aware that they need to study hard and be good even more because of all the sacrifices of their Papa. My kids and I also have our own share of our sacrifices, but I know that this is just temporary. We have set our goals, we have given our limits and next year my mahal will be with us together.

All the Pamilyang OFW like us will surely relate to what we are experiencing right now. As a piece of my unsolicited advice,

Let us not get used in saying goodbyes to our loved ones, instead let this goodbyes be an inspiration to all of us. The key is really to “SAVE”. The very reason why they work abroad is because fortune has been scarce for them here in the Philippines. In return their family left in the Philippines should always take care of all their earnings. Invest if you must, but invest wisely. One of the most fearful part of being an OFW is going back to their motherland penniless.
Apart from all those financial aspect, as a Pamilyang OFW, let us always make our family intact. Distance can never, ever be a hindrance to keep a family. There is now no excuse not to communicate with our OFW family, technologies now abound and they are now just a text or an email away. Do not just remember to call them everytime you would ask for money or support. A message asking how they are and that you love them and miss them will surely make them happy and focus. Being a Pamilyang OFW is really hard, actually it is a choice that we had decided on, it is a sacrifice for a better life. Being a Pamilyang OFW is a responsibility in itself that we have to keep up. Let us show our OFW family that we are worth their sacrifice.

Kaya sa iyo Papa, see you sa chat room…I cant wait na magbalik ka hindi lang para sa bakasyon pero para dito ka na for good. Itong taon na ito ay crucial sa atin dahil matindi tinding ipunan ito para sa ating minimithing negosyo.

Gogogo, AJA para sa ating mga plano. Konting tiis na lang.

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Goodbyes are not forever.
Goodbyes are not the end.
They simply mean I’ll miss you
Until we meet again!
~Author Unknown